I keep booking long trips with the idea that time will not be an issue. It is hard to believe that today is the halfway point in my Costa Rican adventure. The evaporation of time is a constant reminder that all things are temporary.
My first pal in town was a guy named Kent. He lives in Maryland but seems to be the mayor of Montezuma. He has a great talent to make new friends and always includes everyone in fun events. His tribe is large and we rolled through many good times including a boat tour of Tortuga Island, a trip to Santa Teresa for a sandcastle competition, and a private party where we devoured fresh red snapper at a hilltop mansion.
After Kent, my go to gal became Kathryn. She is a lovely young lady from London with a serious passion to travel the world. Her current trip involves eighty days and includes several countries in South America. We met in surfing class, practiced yoga together, and shared many meals. She departed for Nicaragua a few days ago but was kind to leave Denise in Montezuma.
Denise recently turned 40 and gave herself the gift of a Montezuma surf/yoga vacation. She left her husband and kids in Nelson, British Columbia. This is her first solo trip and she quickly picked up on the good vibes in this lovely city. She left on Sunday.
Travel has taught me a very important life lesson about letting go. As a solo wanderer, I am blessed with an ability to quickly make new friends. It is always comforting to have a sidekick in unfamiliar territory. At the same time, we all realize that this is just an intersection. A place to cross paths. We are all going to unique destinations at different paces.
Saying goodbye used to be very difficult for me. I remember tremendous sorrow with saying adios to my first friend on the Camino in 2012. After lightening my load a few times, it became clear that I could not walk to Santiago with 200 people in my backpack. Letting people go creates space for new people and allows that person to share their unique gift with another soul. Instead of whining or feeling sad about the inevitable endings, I spend my energy on the beautiful times we had together.
Clinging to people, time, money, households, hobbies, or lifestyles is never the best idea. We cling because we want things to be comfortable and without change. The nature of nature is chronic change, so the tendency to overhold typically comes with a crummy ending. Life is much more fulfilling to be lived in the moment and accepting the next moment for all the beauty it beholds. There is no need for a chain to bind yesterday to today.
Try to identify something that you hold too tightly. If it is money, try parting with some by giving freely to a local charity. Dump 100% of one junk drawer in the trash to see if you can let go of things you never use. Evict a person that completely screwed you and has been living rent free in your mind. Make a conscious effort to practice letting go and soon it will be a habit.
Eagles never fly while clinging to a branch.